People Work Perfectly

A Human Being is a well oiled machine!

One of the biggest and most innacurate beliefs within the field of psychotherapy (and in many other areas of life) is that people are broken and they need, in some way, to be fixed. NLP completely disregards this notion and proposes that people work perfectly...they just might not be working perfectly in the right direction!

Human Beings are well oiled machines. We don't have problems or bad habits we do them...and we manage to do them consistently, sometimes for long periods of time.

When you really think about it, to be able to do a specific set of behaviours or feel certain emotions, even if they appear destructive, over the course of time is a tremendous skill!

By operating out of the belief that people work perfectly it gives us tremendous flexibility in being able to help them utilize their patterns and, if necessary to change them.

Generally speaking, at some level or another, people will always demonstrate what that say they can't do or feel. For example, Richard Bandler, the co-creator of NLP, was famously told by a client that they, "felt uncertain all the time". Richard responded to this by saying, "Are you absolutely sure about that?". The client then replied, "Yes! I am absolutely certain about my uncertainty!"

By applying the client's statement back on itself Richard demonstrated that the client has the ability to feel a sense of certainty it's just that they weren't doing it in the times and places they wanted to.

A Positive Intention Behind Every Behaviour

It is a common response in our society to look at someone who is engaging in some sort of destructive or negative behaviour and instantly dismiss them as having some sort of character flaw or personality disorder. In actual fact, though, when you examine further, you will notice that the destructive behaviour will actually be attempting to satisfy some sort positive intention.

Take for example smoking. If you ask a smoker why they smoke they will say a wide variety of answers such as, 'it helps me relax' or 'i do it to give me someting interesting to do'. With this example the positive intention behind the behaviour of smoking is to achieve a state of relaxation or a sense on interest.

So it's important to recognise that, while it may appear that people are broken, they are actually attempting, in their own way (albeit not very effectively), to achieve something positive.

One of the amazing things about NLP is that it allows us to create more choice when it comes to achieving our positive intentions and hence eliminates the need to indulge in habits and behaviours that have negative consequences.

If you would like to have more choice in life and learn how to align your yourself for inner and outer excellence check out our NLP Practitioner Training course.

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